Functional or Dysfunctional

I think that every family has a tendency to be a dysfunctional family and a functional family. Some familes are very good at putting on a show infront of others to protray a perfect family but really when they are at home they are very disfunctional.

Coming from a divorced family I can speak of both sides to a functional and disfunctional family. We were very functional to the people on the outside but when it came to us at home we were really disfunctional. We didnt have a loving family we were a family of a disorganized mess. My father was never home so my mom was in charge of everything. This was not an easy task for her especially since she was a mom of two active girls. She was the one who made our family to be functional. She was the rock that we all stood by.

On the other hand my father was the one who caused alot of disfunction when he was around he wanted to mess up the routine and give his two cents. He was the one who wanted to think we had a perfect family but in the end we really didnt. He decided that he was in love with another woman and left my mom to raise two teenage girls. This actually helped our family to be more on the functional side. It actually was a blessing.

Sand Between My Toes

As I sit here listening to the news tell me that we will be getting SNOW finally. I am so glad that I will be leaving for a vacation in 15 days. This was to be a vacation with my boyfriend, unfortunetly due to some issues with his divorce he is not able to come with. I decided that it was time to take my 13 yr old daughter on a vacation only a 13 year old would dream of.

We fly into Miami to board a cruise to Cozmel, Belize, Honduras, and Grand Cayman. It like I am a kid in a candy store so excited to spend some one on one bonding time with my daughter. We are going to enjoy the sand between our toes and the hot sun rays while all the people back home in Minnesota can only dream of the warm sun!

FACEBOOK or FAKEBOOK

I often find my self on Facebook more than I should be, for some reason I find it interesting to see what people are up to. It amazes me that this was suppose to be a social network meant for totally other reasons that what it is used for today. Some of the things that are posted on Facebook should not be there, for instance the letting people know where you are every second of the day. This would be way to easy for a stalker to find you. There seems to be alot of drama on Facebook too, I am a mother of a 13 year old, this is a great tool for her to keep up with friends. On the flip side this has also destroyed several of her friendships due to some postings that have been put up not meant for all to see. You really need to be careful what you put on here. I always say you never know who your next boss will be and to keep things clean on here, you could totally destroy yourself before you even knew it.

VACATION

I have been finding my self dreaming of a warm sunny beach with the hot sun beating down on my pale white skin. I dream of a vacation away from this cold Minnesota state. I find my self wanting to purchase tickets to some place warm but then realize I have no money to spend on a vacation. So in the mean time until maybe I get money back from my taxes I will enjoy the rays of UV lights at the tanning bed. This will at least make me not look like a ghost and the warm bed will help me dream that I am on a warm sandy beach. I just have to keep thinking someday someday, maybe when my kids are grown up and I am finshed with school. :)

Monkey Pond

I have so many memories of my grandma Marie but this one was my favorite. This was my fathers mom, we lived about 15 miles from her so we became very close. When we were little we got to spend the night at her house quite often. When we spent the night we always got to go to the Monkey Pond. The Monkey Pond was a creek behind her house. We would walk down there through field it seemed like a long walk at the time but really it was just a couple blocks away. This pond was a pond that had an alligator in the water (really a tree down) and a money swinging in the tree. This is how it got its name, all those things were not obviously there but it was a place where we could go use out imagination. I wish it was so my children could experience it. The child hood memories of that pond will never be erased. Now that grandma is gone it has not been the same talking about it. I miss you Grandma Marie

Tree / alligator
Vines / monkey
Water flowing
Birds chirping
Fresh air

One of my favorite quotes

" Caring comes from being able to put yourself in the position of the other person" - Eleanor Roosevelt

I find this quote to be so true, how can you care about someone if you are not able to put yourself in there position. No matter who the person is young or old we all have had different journeys in our life that mold us to be the way we are. Some people find strength from being around other people wanting to talk about there problems.  These are the people it is so easy to show you care all you have to do is be there for them to vent. I know in my trials of life I find the most caring people to be the ones who were there no matter what time of day if I needed someone to hug me console me they were there. Others want to be left alone and not talk about anything with anyone, these types its sometimes hard to show you care but just letting them know you are there will make them understand if they need you you do care. My 13 year old daughter is this way, she will talk when she is ready. I just always let her know I am here for her when she is ready.

Caring in your kids life is also important each kid has there own unique personality, I know my three kids deal with things differently. I have to remember each child's personality when it comes to caring for them. I have a different approach to different issues with each of them so they know I care about them in there own personal way.

If you live by this quote you will always be able to help some one out. CARING for there feelings first or as some say putting your self in there shoes is very helpful.

Earning a Degree

In October of this year I was let go from my job, this was a very scary thing to have happen to me being a single mom of three. Being let go from my job made me realize that it was time for me to do something with my self instead of finding another dead end job.

Working in the medical field has made me want to pursue a degree in that field. I was always the low man on the totem pole it was time for me make something of my self. I worked in the surgical department, I always found surgery to be very interesting. So here I am going to be a surgical tech, it is going to take hard work and determination on my part but I can do it. I just keep looking towards the finish line. I also have to keep reminding my self baby steps.